Do y’all pick a word for the new year? Like one word to describe what your focus will be for the next 12 months? Last year was the first year I did this and I really liked it. Last year my word was intentional and I thought of that word often. When my brain was too full, foggy or overwhelmed to remember any of my goals, I could always recall that word and it immediately put me on the right track. It reminded me of my 2017 dreams and gave me purpose in the small moments. I like practices that are simple, yet effective and the one word for the year is exactly that. If you haven’t tried to theme your focus for a new year with one word or phrase, I highly recommend it.
Last year I wanted to be intentional. Intentional about my health, my family and my time. And I was. Although most of the year was trying and I lived in survival mode for many of the 12 months, I was intentional every day. When I was so tired I could barely get up, I was intentional with my children so the little energy I had was expelled in the right places on the most important people. There were areas in my life that suffered and that was intentional too. I knew I was in no space to do it all, so I intentionally prioritized everything. I focused on my faith, health and family and everything else took a back seat. My intentions worked and as you read last week, last year was the year of healing for me and our whole family.
This year my word is action. Last year I knew I was limited so I did what I could but mostly dreamt about when I would be able to actually DO. I was released to exercise, my brain fog is gone and most of my energy has returned. I am excited to follow through on my dreams in 2018 to take action. And that’s exactly what I am doing. I am still listening to my body, being conscious of my health and prioritizing my family at the top of the list but this year I am thrilled to be taking massive action. I’m bored to death of rest.
Which leads me to my 2018 resolutions. I have a lot of goals built into these resolutions but these are the 5 promises I am making to myself this year. These 5 promises will bring the change I have been longing for and growth in all areas of my life. If you are looking to make some changes, these should inspire you to set some action-packed resolutions for yourself!
I resolve to Protect My Peace
I, like so many women, have not always protected myself or my family. I have allowed stress, overwhelm, exhaustion and overscheduling to steal our joy. I am a people pleaser and I like everyone to be happy. I love to make people laugh and say yes and help in any way I can. I am sad to say that I have spent a better part of motherhood being overworked, overwhelmed, frustrated and so dang tired. I have put myself and my needs on a back burner. Guess where that got me? Sick, really sick. Part of my journey back to health has been making myself a priority.
I am learning to say no, learning to give myself the precious, precious gift of sleep, taking better care of my body and my mind, limiting activities in our schedule, planning rest, relaxation and family time. And knowing what I need to stay calm, peaceful and healthy and listening to my body to know when to stop is vital for me. For my sanity, I need my quiet time each day, I need exercise, sleep, nights out with my man, chats with girlfriends, to be on the water and time to read. I learned the hard way what gives me peace and what brings peace to our home and I will protect that peace this year and always.
I resolve to Do Things That Scare Me
I have been a fearful person in the past. I grew up being afraid of everything and following the loss of our unborn son, I became even more fearful. I made decisions based on fear, I lost trust in people and circumstances and even myself. My health situation over the past few years has made that fear worse and brought on a lot of anxiety. But it’s not who I am, it’s not who I was designed to be and it makes me miserable. So this year, I am ditching the fear and the best way I know how to do that is to feel the fear and do it anyway. I’ve got a lot of ideas on things that scare me so it should be pretty interesting to see how this goes. No matter what happens, I know this will bring joy and personal growth so I am excited about that!
I resolve to Build My Confidence
I am an outgoing personality and I have spent a lot of my life on a stage. I am not afraid of a crowd or of public speaking so most people assume I am a very confident person. And in certain areas I am confident but even that has wavered over the last few years. When you can barely think straight enough to make a grocery list, your feet hurt too bad to walk, your heart malfunctions and you’re too exhausted to get through a day, you really start to question what you are capable of. Mostly for me, it has been my body. I haven’t trusted myself to do what I could before and I am tired of feeling limited. So this year is when I learn to believe in myself again. Oh, that feels good already.
I resolve to Eliminate The Excess
I talked to y’all back before the holidays about how the excess in our lives was driving me crazy and how we were planning for a more low key Christmas. And although it was better, wow, the holidays still always have a way of making me feel overstuffed in all aspects. We’ve been living a life lately of too much stuff, too many toys, too much tv, too much sugar and too much mess! I am a Type A personality, so I need a clean and organized space to think and be creative. Drawers that won’t close, closets overfull and counters piled high gives me anxiety so I am taking on our home with the KonMari method this year and I hope to get through every square foot of our house by year’s end.
It’s not just our home though, I will be getting rid of the excess in many areas of our family’s life. I will be eliminating unnecessary stress, extra spending, the excess in our schedules, all negativity and banishing clutter in all forms. When you free up your schedule, your mind, your body and your home of the excess, you make room to create greatness in your life.
I resolve to Change Our Family Food Experience
If the other resolutions sounded challenging, let me just tell you, nothing will be as hard as this one. I am on a mission to change the way our family eats. Both of our children used to be great eaters, like hummus and carrots, kale chips, and vegetable soup type eaters. All of that has changed due to a combination of the terrible 3’s, my daughter getting a traumatic stomach bacteria and a mama without the strength to fight at dinnertime. Oh ya, and the world stuffing my children full of sugar. It has just gotten out of hand. So before my kiddos are too old for me to change their habits and before this poor eating catches up with their health, we are changing the way we eat. I am set on our family’s food experience being entirely different 12 months from now. I’m gonna go ahead and ask for your prayers, advice and, support for this one because it is by far the most daunting.
If last year was the year of health, I hope this year to be the year of change. And all that change and growth will be accomplished with ACTION and I’m pretty dang excited! If you haven’t evaluated your life, set some goals or written down some resolutions, it is never, ever too late. Get on it. Change your life, grow in ways you never thought possible. Last year, as hard as it was proved to me that it is possible. The more you walk through the fear, the more action you take, the more changes you make, the more you will believe it’s possible, the more you will believe in yourself. Girl, what isn’t working? What can you take the next 12 months to fix or to elevate to live your very best life? Do it. I will be right here with you, probably getting brussel sprouts thrown at my head!