Many people say their wedding vows and rarely think of them again. In fact, many people’s vows actually have very little to do with their actual marriage. The Water Man and I said traditional christian wedding vows. As romantic as writing our own vows seemed at the time, neither one of us wanted to publicize our private promises to each other. Many of the promises we would have made have since changed. The vows I would have had The Water Man take as a 26 year old single woman with no children are vastly different today. I am so glad now that we decided to take traditional wedding vows because those vows are timeless.
One of the most important vows that people tend to forget in marriage is the promise to honor one another. Honor is a fancy word for respect. I think about that vow and realize how difficult it is to keep it. I think about fights we’ve had or just how we all tend to take out our frustrations on those we are closest to and I have to admit I have failed at this many times. I have failed to honor my husband in my actions and with my words.
The words I use to talk to and about my husband are just as important as my actions when honoring him. This week in a post about self worth, I talked about our words being game changers. Nothing could be more true for marriage. If you are constantly tearing down your spouse, talking negatively about them to your friends, focusing on their faults and nitpicking them, you will curse their lives and your relationship. Your words will not only dishonor them, but destroy them. Our words have the power to bless or curse our lives and those around us. Part of honoring our spouses is not to disrespect them with our words.
This is a two way street. Our vows call for both of us to honor one another and it is vital to a healthy marriage. Respect is crucial in creating a positive environment in our homes and for setting a good example for our children. Our wedding vows are not temporary, we should think of them often and evaluate if we’re holding up our end of the deal.
It seems like such a simple concept but when you really think about it, it can be challenging. Start today blessing your family with your words and sit back and see how quickly that love, positivity and respect is reciprocated. Keep your wedding vow to honor your mate and save your marriage!